FAQs
What's a Cakehole?
Shhhhh just let it happen. But also, people were like, "Hey we want more parties where you can play and fuck and have a grand time" and we were like, "Us too, so here's a party".
Is this one of those super special sekkrit parties where you've got to be in the IN CROWD?
Nope. This is a public party, open to newbies and strangers.
How do I get to go to Cakehole?
Fill out our vetting form using Vetting link on the top menu. Once you are vetted we will email you information on how to register.
You only need to be vetted one time. Once you are vetted you will be added to our email list and will be sent the registration information for all future parties.
Why does Cakehole vet attendees? What is part of the vetting process?
Cakehole is a diversity-inclusive party and the aim of vetting is to have a comfortable, consent-oriented environment.
What that means is that you'll be providing Cakehole with your online profile (Fetlife or otherwise) and describing your experience / involvement in the kink scene and queer spaces. You might also be asked to have someone (preferably) in the kink scene vouch for you.
This process allows the creation of a curated guest list of people who are capable & willing to co-exist in a party atmosphere where all are mindful & respectful of diversity (e.g. asking pronouns).
Whatever your gender / sexual orientation or your kinksperience, all are welcome as long as Cakehole's Rules are followed!
How much will this set me back?
$20 for all. Pricing structures based on gender, relationship status, age, or orientation are wack. Pay cash at the door OR you can buy your ticket in advance online, which would be super awesome because it helps us keep the party sustainable!!
(Note: there is a small processing fee on the ticketing site, but we do NOT SEE any of your billing information!)
What if I don't have $20?
We're reasonable people. Let us know if you can't scratch together 20 bucks because you're a student, unemployed or because reasons, and we'll give you a break. We don't want anyone to stay home because they don't have the cash. You can also volunteer to get $10 off per hour worked.
Where's this party?
In an awesome dungeon in midtown Manhattan. The dungeon has multiple hard points and lots of furniture for you to play on. You'll get the address after you register.
What kind of freaky things can I do?
Get naked, put things in holes with condoms, hit things, tie things up, eat cake, start a dance party, teach things, have a performance, dramatic readings. The usual. Ask a bright pink DM if you're not sure, and please always alert them before anything risky, edgy, fluidy, or consensual non-consenty.
What kind of freaky things can't I do?
Non-consent, bare backing, getting fluid on the furniture, pee play, (we wish we could be a pee-friendly party but there is only one bathroom, sorry friends,) getting sloppy drunk.
What should I bring?
Yourself, your toys, your safer sex supplies (though we will be providing some too!), your cake, your drink, your food. We'll have plates, cups and utensils if you want to bring food/drink to share.
What about alcohol?
Yes, Cakehole attendees (who are 21+) are welcome to bring alcohol for their own personal consumption. Alcohol is not allowed to be shared on the communal food table.
Some people like to drink, others do not, and we want to let everyone make that decision for themselves. However, we do not want to foster a culture of drinking and playing. In addition to the increased risks of "kinking while drinking" we want to acknowledge and address the over-representation of people who may have triggers around alcohol or history with substance abuse in the queer community.
What will be provided at the party?
Water, safer sex supplies (i.e. gloves, innie & outie condoms, dental dams, lube packets), chucks, cleaning supplies, and a good time. Also probably cake.
Is Cakehole a safe hole?
Since this is a (semi-)public party and we want to keep it fairly open to new people, we are unable to guarantee a completely safe space. But we don't like partying with abusers. Please message us with any concerns or submit a complaint through the registration form and we'll do our best to ensure you feel safe while getting freaky. Your physical, mental and emotional safety is our priority.
I have other questions that you didn't answer.
Email me at [email protected]
Shhhhh just let it happen. But also, people were like, "Hey we want more parties where you can play and fuck and have a grand time" and we were like, "Us too, so here's a party".
Is this one of those super special sekkrit parties where you've got to be in the IN CROWD?
Nope. This is a public party, open to newbies and strangers.
How do I get to go to Cakehole?
Fill out our vetting form using Vetting link on the top menu. Once you are vetted we will email you information on how to register.
You only need to be vetted one time. Once you are vetted you will be added to our email list and will be sent the registration information for all future parties.
Why does Cakehole vet attendees? What is part of the vetting process?
Cakehole is a diversity-inclusive party and the aim of vetting is to have a comfortable, consent-oriented environment.
What that means is that you'll be providing Cakehole with your online profile (Fetlife or otherwise) and describing your experience / involvement in the kink scene and queer spaces. You might also be asked to have someone (preferably) in the kink scene vouch for you.
This process allows the creation of a curated guest list of people who are capable & willing to co-exist in a party atmosphere where all are mindful & respectful of diversity (e.g. asking pronouns).
Whatever your gender / sexual orientation or your kinksperience, all are welcome as long as Cakehole's Rules are followed!
How much will this set me back?
$20 for all. Pricing structures based on gender, relationship status, age, or orientation are wack. Pay cash at the door OR you can buy your ticket in advance online, which would be super awesome because it helps us keep the party sustainable!!
(Note: there is a small processing fee on the ticketing site, but we do NOT SEE any of your billing information!)
What if I don't have $20?
We're reasonable people. Let us know if you can't scratch together 20 bucks because you're a student, unemployed or because reasons, and we'll give you a break. We don't want anyone to stay home because they don't have the cash. You can also volunteer to get $10 off per hour worked.
Where's this party?
In an awesome dungeon in midtown Manhattan. The dungeon has multiple hard points and lots of furniture for you to play on. You'll get the address after you register.
What kind of freaky things can I do?
Get naked, put things in holes with condoms, hit things, tie things up, eat cake, start a dance party, teach things, have a performance, dramatic readings. The usual. Ask a bright pink DM if you're not sure, and please always alert them before anything risky, edgy, fluidy, or consensual non-consenty.
What kind of freaky things can't I do?
Non-consent, bare backing, getting fluid on the furniture, pee play, (we wish we could be a pee-friendly party but there is only one bathroom, sorry friends,) getting sloppy drunk.
What should I bring?
Yourself, your toys, your safer sex supplies (though we will be providing some too!), your cake, your drink, your food. We'll have plates, cups and utensils if you want to bring food/drink to share.
What about alcohol?
Yes, Cakehole attendees (who are 21+) are welcome to bring alcohol for their own personal consumption. Alcohol is not allowed to be shared on the communal food table.
Some people like to drink, others do not, and we want to let everyone make that decision for themselves. However, we do not want to foster a culture of drinking and playing. In addition to the increased risks of "kinking while drinking" we want to acknowledge and address the over-representation of people who may have triggers around alcohol or history with substance abuse in the queer community.
What will be provided at the party?
Water, safer sex supplies (i.e. gloves, innie & outie condoms, dental dams, lube packets), chucks, cleaning supplies, and a good time. Also probably cake.
Is Cakehole a safe hole?
Since this is a (semi-)public party and we want to keep it fairly open to new people, we are unable to guarantee a completely safe space. But we don't like partying with abusers. Please message us with any concerns or submit a complaint through the registration form and we'll do our best to ensure you feel safe while getting freaky. Your physical, mental and emotional safety is our priority.
I have other questions that you didn't answer.
Email me at [email protected]